Hi everyone! Welcome back to my blog, or welcome if you’re new πŸ™‚ I hope you’re having a great day so far!

In today’s post, I’m going to be going back to my classic style of post, something I’ve not done in a while – a more thoughtful, mindful post.

I want to talk about phases – about how style and taste can change, about how obsessions can last for only seconds at a time, and about how dealing with phases can be, at times, extremely difficult.

Without further ado, let’s begin.

So I’m sure we’ve all been through several phases in our lives – whether it be a stage where we acted like we were invisible, a stage where we dressed in all black, a stage where we watched PLL 24/7, or a stage where we just simply couldn’t sleep at night.

No matter what kind of phase you’re going through, big or small, it’s important to embrace it as it comes.

You may look back at yourself in five or ten years time and laugh. But… that’s okay!

If you’ve found a sudden passion for something, then rather than waiting to see if it lasts, go for it!

Be the one who wears only denim for a week. Be the one who watches Disney movies every weekend. Be the one who dyes their hair blue. (Actually, maybe think about that first before you do it…)

Sometimes, we feel like a phase is not normal to go through. No one else seems to be obsessed over a particular TV show. No one else has trouble coming in to school.

And the worst thing is when we can’t tell the difference between a phase and a real change in your life.

Both of these problems are not as complex as you think.

It’s okay to be different from everyone else – as I’m sure you’ve heard, life would be boring if everyone was the same! Do your own thing, and don’t be afraid to stand apart from the crowd every now and again.

In regards to that second problem, the one about not knowing the difference between a phase and a real change, there’s really only one solution.

And that is to, as I mentioned a minute ago, embrace every new passion you discover.

What can go wrong? If it was only just a temporary phase, then you’ll soon forget about it. And if it was a real development in your life, you’ll have grasped it fully on the head, and be ready to take it to another level of obsession (that sounds bad… but I think you know what I mean).

Why am I telling you all this, writing this post today?

Because I’m going through a lot of phases myself.

And whenever something confuses me in real life? I head to this blog to vent about it.

Maybe this advice is useless to some of you. But this post is actually more of a personal one – for me to look back on, weeks, months, years from now, and get some advice from my past self.

Of course, it would be an added bonus if this helps some of you out too!

I’m currently going through another procrastination stage – but thankfully, I’m getting some signs that it’s ending. I actually got down and did some work this weekend, and I’m really happy about that!

Procrastination is a continuous thing, but often at times I feel inclined to do it more than at others. I deem these as phases.

Often, my heart is in the right place to begin a new phase, but then I never follow it through.

For example… about a month ago, I wanted to have “the perfect, calm morning routine”. I wanted to wake up super early, and have time to write, read, and respect my own thoughts for a while. Then I’d have breakfast, get dressed, and still have time to spare.

Did I ever follow through with that plan,ale my dream a reality?

No chance.

I thought about it non stop for a few days, and then gradually my mind wandered away every time I tried to think about it. Eventually, I gave up.

I was bored of it!

Well, not bored. I’d still love to make that relaxing morning routine happen – but it was too unrealistic, and I was taking it too fast.

Sometimes, you need to slow down for things to work. And I didn’t.

So, after a while, the phase passed.

And that’s life.

Phases may seem trivial and awkward at the time, or they may seem like the best thing that’s ever happened. Take them in your stride.

They’re what make up your personality, and your mind. They are the things you pour your heart and soul into.

So don’t let them pass by.

Embrace them.

That is all for today’s post! Tell me in the comments – has there been a certain phase in your life you laugh at, looking back? I know there is in mine…

Thank you so much for reading, I hope you’ve enjoyed. I’ll see you all on Friday with the next lot of my February Photography Challenge pictures ❀

Tara xx


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  1. This is a beautiful post, Tara!! Man, I have gone through so many phases and changes in my life, I’m positive I’ve completely lost count by now. XD I really appreciate seeing your posts show up in my Reader, because you’re always able to deeply inspire me with what you write about! ❀ One phase in my life that really affected me for a while was when I was obsessed with this one boy band (One Direction … haha), and they were literally all I could think about. I loved their music, they were attractive, but it consumed me more than it made me happy. I was much happier when I began listening to other music!!

    It’s really important that we’re able to see the difference between a phase and a real change, and being aware of them will make them easier to go through and embrace. Right now, I’m transitioning into life with a baby sibling, and while it has had its moments, I’ve truly enjoyed it so far. ❀

    On a random note, I saw that you’re 5 FOLLOWERS AWAY from 200 followers!!!! Girl! That is absolutely amazing, and I’m so happy for you. ❀ You’ll be at 200 in no time!! πŸ˜€

    I hope you have a beautiful day!

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  2. Thank you so much!! πŸ™‚ Aha, me too. XD That makes me so happy to hear that! Thanks ❀ Ooh! I actually know who One Direction are! (I'm not very good at keeping up with current music… Although they have been apart for a few years now, I think?) Their music was indeed awesome, but I know what you mean, and sometimes you need to switch things up a little. Still, you're right – they WERE attractive, haha! XD

    That's so true! And that's definitely a very challenging transition to go through, but I'm so happy you're enjoying it ❀ Baby siblings are so sweet, although it must be hard at first to get used to.

    Aha, you're right! I hadn't even noticed! Still thought I was in the 180's XD Thank you so much!! That means a lot to me ❀

    Thank you, I am! And I hope your day is great also πŸ™‚ Thank you for writing such a lovely comment, it has really made my day xx

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  3. You’re very welcome! ❀ and haha that’s awesome! (: Yeah, they’ve been making music since 2012, I think. I really like some of their new music!

    Definitely. Thank you! xx It is, but like you said, they are so sweet, and that makes it extremely easy to get used to. πŸ™‚

    Aww you’re welcome! Yeah, sometimes I won’t pay attention to my follower count for a while, then I’m surprised by the number! XD

    You’re welcome, and thanks! It was my pleasure xx ❀

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  4. I’ve been through a lot of phases. XD The ones that come to mind are the “wear all black” phase, the I can’t sleep at night phase (which ended with sleeping for 16 hours straight… XD), the TV show obsession phase, the obsession with computer games phase, and the Nancy Drew obsession phase… I probably have over 100 books and I have all of the Nancy Drew PC games that were made. XD The only thing that seems to have stuck over the years is my love for writing and reading. Not saying I don’t still enjoy an occasional Nancy Drew mystery (I just ordered Mystery On Maui – seemed like a good idea to read about a mystery on a warm tropical island of Hawaii while it’s still cold. XD) or TV show. But the phase is gone, so I’m not obsessed anymore.
    P.S.: Two followers away from 200?! How exciting!!! πŸ˜€

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  5. Me too, haha! I’ve been through most of those myself, especially the no sleeping one… XD That resulted in disaster! But it’s fine now. Wow, sixteen hours? That’s a lot!

    Nancy Drew is always a good read, but I know what you mean – we can become OBSESSED with a certain series or author! (Aha, good planning. XD)

    Thank you!! I know, I can’t believe it. Didn’t even notice it until someone pointed it out to me the other day! πŸ™‚ xx

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